This was written a while ago, the week that I went to the hospital. It's not finished, but I think that I'll just post what I wrote, anyway. 4/9
Another week, another..... well...... week, I guess. Another church, maybe? My experiences here have not been static enough to see too many similarities between the days. Only rain.
There has been a lot of rain. Not Washington Rain, which is only a little nuisance that doesn't hurt anyone, but real, unabashed, 500-horsepower rain that sneaks up on you when you are walking down a dirt road, miles from any house you know and forces you to take shelter under a giant taro or banana leaf. At least the rain is somewhat warm. The outdoor showers here are all much warmer than the indoor ones. I've only just begun to develop a tolerance to the cold cachement water that comes pouring down out of the open end of a pipe which is a local showerhead. I don't shriek nearly as loudly at the cold, frigid, sub-artic gush. Now, if there were only some way to actually get dry in this humidity...
So.....
I'm staying in Utwe now, at the house of Rimus Nena(brother of Romus- I love these names), proud owner of Armis Taxi (pronounced Army's) and a reputation more notorious than Meltina's. I moved in on Thursday after 9 wonderful days with the George family. I'm very glad that I have been moving around, because life with these different families has been very different. The Kibby's were great, but they were very busy too. Meltina was working a lot, and the kids were off doing, well, their own stuff. The George family was much bigger, and much more interested in what I was doing. They too were very busy, mostly with church things, but there were always at least two kids following me around wanting to wrestle or play at all times. My favorite was little Manuo, who is two, and is convinced that I speak Kosraen. He would follow me around, talking to me, and his Kosraen vocabulary far surpasses my own. I would ask someone what he wanted, and it would always be "he wants you to climb the ladder with him.", or "He wants to play ball."
So, two Saturdays ago, when I was out in the channel with Tadeo, I told him that I wanted to go to the Menke Ruins, up in the hills in Utwe. He told me then that he was going to take a woman from KVR (the Kosrae Village Resort) up on Tuesday, and that I should go with him then. I happily agreed: the more the merrier.
I called Tadeo on Monday night to confirm the trip and to figure out when and where to meet him. He said to meet him at noon at the trailhead to the Ruins, and that any taxi would know where that is. So, I called a taxi on Tuesday morning, an hour before noon, and when no one showed up, got Bob to drive me in the family truck. I was about ten minutes late, or 20 minutes early in Island time, but there was no one to be seen anywhere close to the trailhead. After waiting and searching for people, we drove into the town of Utwe and used the phone at Rimus's house to call Tadeo.
"Papa Tadeo is not here. He went to the airport today."
Really? What about the tour of the ruins?
"Oh, my uncle led the tour, hours ago. A woman from KVR and a guy"
Really? Wasn't that supposed to be me?
"Um, hold on..(fourminutepausewhilephoneispassedaroundtheroom) Lwen Wo!(man's voice)"
Um, hello?
"This is Tadeo's son, Salik! I'll take you! You wait for me,Ok!?! I'll be right over!"
Salik showed up a few minutes later with his friend Ryan Kilfas (big home-made tatoo "RyaKil" on his arm) and we hitched a ride with bob to the trailhead. The trail was pretty easy, we only crossed the river 5 or 6 times and it was never too steep. We stopped along the way at one of Salik's tangerine trees and loaded up our pockets. I like Salik, he knows all of the plants and local remedies like his dad, but he is much younger, and speaks better english. He told me that he has been taking correspondance classes and wants to be the photographer for the local paper. Along the way he told me that we had been following the tracks of some people, but they had stopped. No one had gone this way for several days. It only took about an hour to do the hike, and we stopped along the way to examine Ka, the different kinds of Taro, and a strand of Eucaliptus trees(sp?). The ruins are very overgrown, but impressive. The locals didn't really know about them until they were rediscovered by a local about 100 years ago, and then shown to a German archaeologist. There are more than a hundred big stone rooms, all with central altars. It is believed that they were never lived in, but only used for ceremony, although I find it very hard to believe. It is not known exactly how old they are, but they are easily the oldest structures in Micronesia, abandoned before Nan Madol was even built.
On the way back we met Papa Tadeo on the road, and without apologizing for the changing plans without telling me, told us that his brother and the lady from KVR had got into an argument and had turned around after half-an-hour.
Wednesday night, I went with Bob to the church because he said they were going to be jamming. When we got there, we could here it from the parking lot. A lot of preprogrammed keyboard drumbeats, and female harmony. I started to talk to the musicians, the same guys who were rocking out on Sunday, and I tapped their equipment and recorded some of the music onto MD.
On Thursday, I moved out of the George's house, and I think that Kenye was crying. I know that some of the kids were. I met Rimus's family too. He has four young daughters, and two drivers that are like sons to him. He told me that I am now his white son. He's only 30.
After a good meal of salmon cooked in shredded mango, papaya, and homegrown chiles on rice, I got a phone call from Bob George. He asked, "Hey Randy, are you FROM Utwe?"
um.... no..... why?
"Well, you forgot your toothbrush."
The other towns are kind of snobby about Utwe. Apparently they were a low town in the heirarchy of ancient Kosrae, the farthest from royal Lelu. They were also the last to get electricity, and a paved road, and Utweians are sometimes treated like the barefooted step-children of Kosrae. Once again, politics and stereotypes abound. Bob told me that he doesn't really like Utwe because "there are a bunch of fags."
well.....
So, on friday I found out some weird news. A friend of mine here, who shall remain anonymous, asked me for some advice on Friday. There is this 30-ish guy in Missouri who has been calling and e-mailing him. I asked him about what?
'Oh, well he sent some money, but it never got here.'
Why did he send money?
'Oh well, he wants to help us. He says his accountant told him he's going to be a millionare this year. He's a friend of my sister-in-law who is in the states. He says he wants to come and visit.'
Oh, is he a tourist?
'No, he is a friend of my daughter's.'
Oh. How does he know your daughter?
'Well, my sister told him about her. He wants to meet her, but he told me that he can't come here because of business. He said he's going to send tickets so that we can go and meet him.'
Why do you need to meet him?
'So we can see if he's a good guy. he wants to meet our daughter.'
What do you mean?
'Well he want her to live with him. And he wants to help us.'
Help you do what?
'Send us money. And he wants to help my daughter.'
What do you mean help her?
'He wants her to be his wife.'
How old is your daughter?
'17'
And he's thirty? Does your daughter know this guy?
'Yes, sometimes when he calls, she'll pick up the phone. He's a real sweet talker.'
How does he know you again?
'My sister-in-law is married to an older man in america. He is a friend of her boyfriends. She told him about my daughter.'
Wait, why? What did she tell him?
'Just that her name is (name) and that she's 17. He told me that he would send a lot of money. He's rich. He said that he would send a certain amount each year, and it would equal to $46 thousand over 10 years. He's a real sweet talker'
I was dumbfounded. I told him that the whole thing sounded terrible. He told me that a lot of Kosraen women want American husbands. I know that a lot of Kosraens are very naive, and that things are very different here, but what exactly am I supposed to do when a friend of mine tells me that there is a guy half-way around the world who would like to buy his daughter as a wife, and that he's thinking about it. I told him "NO". I asked him what he even knew about this guy. Not much apparently. I asked him what his daughter thought about it. He told me that she knew about it, she had heard him talking about it, and that she was neutral. NEUTRAL. Of course she was neutral. So many women here are used to not having any say in their lives that they don't even think to voice an opinion about them. I told him that this was bad news. I took him to the Library to find an article in National Geographic about 21st Century Slavery (which is a shocking article, by the way. It mentions slavery busts in both Washington and Florida within the past ten years), but their subscription ran out a few years ago. I talked to the assistant Attourney General about the legalities of the whole thing, and she said that there was nothing in the spirit or the law that looked down on this. I'm going to get him to do an online criminal background check, to hopefully find something to help him protect his daughter. I just don't know. I don't look down on women in other countries who volunteer to join mail-order-bride programs voluntarily. For a lot of them, it is a good way out of a bad situation. But here is guy who is calling people who don't know him, telling them he'll send them money for their daughter, a GIRL half his age, in a place that is known for having submissive women. I don't know. I just don't know. I've been telling my friend that he has no reason to trust this guy, and he keeps telling me how great a guy he is. I'm gonna need to find a way to convince him that this is a bad idea. It is, isn't it?
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Randumbfounded.